Tea Consent

Tea Consent

If you’re still struggling with consent,
just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.
You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “oh my god, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!” then you know they want a cup of tea.
If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they’re like “um I’m not really
sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not
drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – then and this is the important part –  don’t
make them drink it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch
them drink it. And If they say “No thank you” then don’t
make them tea. At all. Just don’t make them tea, don’t make them drink tea, don’t
get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don’t want tea, ok?
They might say “Yes please, that’s kind of you” and then when the tea arrives they
actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to
all the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea.
They did want tea, now they don’t. Some people change their mind in the time it takes
to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And it’s ok for people to change
their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink.
And If they are unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people don’t want
tea and can’t answer the question “do you want tea” because they’re are unconscious.
Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes,
but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they
are now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person
is safe, and this is the important part again – don’t make them drink the tea. They
said yes then, sure, but unconscious people don’t wanttea.
If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it, and then passed out before they’d finished
it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away and make sure they
are safe.  Because unconscious people don’t want tea. Trust me on this.
If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last Saturday, that doesn’t mean that
they want you to make them tea all the time. They don’t want you to come around unexpectedly
to their place and make them tea and force them to drink it going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA
LAST WEEK”, or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED
TEA LAST NIGHT”. If you can understand how completely ludicrous
it is to force people to have tea when they don’t wanttea, and you are able to understand
when people don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand it when it comes to sex?
Whether it’s tea or sex, Consent Is Everything. And on that note, I am going to make myself
a cup of tea.


  1. If they say yes to tea, and asked that you keep the tea bag the entire time, and then you take it out without telling them, then that's also really not okay.

  2. I have never asked and I will never ask if "tea" would be okay now. If you don't know and have to ask, the answer is no! 😉

  3. Do you have any idea how much work and effort goes into makeing a cup of tea MORE THAN IT DOES SETTING THE MOOD FOR SEX AND THAT SHITS HARD

  4. Like no one is going to get laid following this advice

    Edit: hello female, would you like to have sex


  5. I tried to make a girl drink my cup of tea once. But when I tried to let her have a sip, she also had one ready for me.

  6. Podiam mostrar isso pro Neymar e toda a galera que tá na dúvida se foi estupro ou não! Genial esse vídeo

  7. If you feel like tea, and no one wants tea with you, you could always visit a tea house. Those people love tea, and if you pay them, they will make tea for you.

  8. this video helped and showed me consent but also completly ruined the meaning of tea for me, so if someone asks me if i want tea i usually laugh or choke on what im eating 😀

  9. What about when they say yes take the tea then before they finish say no you forced me to drink this as they are currently drinking said tea willingly and now your in jail what about then

  10. Lol a teacher put this on in assembly at school. They didn’t think it would swear
    In the first 5 seconds

  11. When I made a collab with Storybooth, I compared religion to ice cream because I said don’t force it down my throat. There are different kinds of ice cream just like there are different religions and some not everyone thinks the same flavor is right for them, but that doesn’t mean we should judge each other. I guess food metaphors are the best way to go.

  12. My teacher put this on in class nd it went “FUCK YEAH ID LOVE A FUCKING CUP OF TEA” my teacher shit himself 😂

  13. i dont believe in withdrawing consent. if you say yes. drink the tea and halfway through the cup dont want to drink the tea. well too bad youre gunna finish it.

  14. You wont believe that my school showed this to our year in a formal assembly! The whole Year started laughing and to this day is remembered.

  15. My teacher one time played this during class and she was a sweet teacher and innocent, so when they said “FUCK YEAH!” She freaked out and screamed

  16. So when he says that hes gonna go have a cup of tea at the end of the video, does that mean hes going to have a delicious cup of tea, or is he going to go have sex?

  17. This is the absolute BEST video ever. It should be shown to every kid going into high school, college and graduate school. Female and male. There is no way to miss understand it. Just because they wanted tea last week, doesn't mean they want tea today and don't get mad at them for not wanting tea. They are just not in the mood for tea. AWESOME! It should be shown every year at the beginning of school.

  18. Couldn’t this be used with anything…watch…imagine your throwing them a grenade but they don’t want the grenade then you put the grenade in there hand hand duct tape it shut

  19. my therapist had me watch this after i was assaulted because i was having trouble coping and understanding i didnt give consent, as i was asleep and had let him pet my hair. this really helps victims thank you

  20. Sometime people start drinking tea and then don't want it anymore. It's a person's right to change his/her mind and say no stop. Don't pressure or force then to continue drinking tea!

  21. What if they totally want a cup of tea, chug that tea, say how great the tea was, tell their friends they fucking loved that tea, then sometime between the next day and 15 years later they decided they didn't want that tea and accuse you of pouring the tea down their throat.

  22. So when a guy sends a dick pic is that like showing them a box of tea and saying "do you want some D?" in this analogy? Cus that seems pretty fucked up, not gonna lie.

    Just don't have sex kids. Act like normal millennials and end your genetic line. Whenever you think about asking a girl out just go home and jerk off instead. You'll be much happier later that evening when you're not being rejected because you didn't try.

  23. If someone invites a person over for tea and biscuits and are expressly enjoying themselves and you offer them another and they hesitantly say no because they dont want others to think they are a pig for eating too many or say no for whatever reason although you can tell they'd enjoy another and you offer them another one. Does that person have the right to be mad? DId the person feeding the tea and biscuits do something bad?

  24. And if you make tea with interesting or strange creamers and add-ins in it, always tell the person beforehand and make sure they are okay with that.

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